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Typical triggers in festive seasons
For many of us, the holiday season is an emotional mixed bag. Although it’s meant to be a happy and festive time, the holiday season is often filled with its fair share of stress and anxiety. Some common triggers include:
Family dynamics: Family time can rekindle old tensions or resentments.
Financial burden: The pressure to give gifts and engage in expensive activities can be overwhelming.
Over commitment: Going to every party and event can leave us stretched too thin.
Perfectionism: Wanting to create the “perfect” holiday experience can be draining.
I remember some years trying to attend three different family gatherings in one day. By the end, I was so stressed about it all that none of it was pleasurable. It helped me to comprehend how crucial is to make realistic expectations on me.
1.2. Identifying social anxiety symptoms
Some might feel excitement or dread when greeted at a party. So, here are the things to look for:
These symptoms are typical and nothing to be ashamed of — just keep that in mind. The first step in effective management is to recognize them.
1.3. The role of expectations and past experiences
The holiday experiences of the past and the expectations we’ve been building over the years can certainly have their influences on our anxiety levels in the present. And if past family get-togethers have felt stressful or left you disappointed, we may dread or fear future gatherings.
“Our expectations are often the blueprint for our experiences.” “We can reclaim our holiday experiences for the better by recalibrating our expectations.”
2.1. Developing a personal coping strategy
Creating your own coping strategy for the holidays can be life saving in managing holiday anxiety. Here’s how to make one:
Music was a great way to find out when I was feeling anxious.
Write down the coping strategies that have served you well in the past.
Give concrete examples, plan for breaks or exits.
Framework responses for potentially uncomfortable scenarios or QAPs.
Knowing you have a plan ensures you bit of control and comfort in navigating holiday gatherings.
2.2. Setting realistic expectations and boundaries
Abandon the need to say yes. Boundaries are essential to preserve my mental health over the holidays. This might mean:
Reducing the amount of events you go to
Pre-filling how long you will stay at gatherings
How to communicate to family and friends what you need, and what you can handle
In my younger days, I felt guilty not going to every holiday event to which I was invited. But I’ve found that it’s better to give yourself permission to fully enjoy a handful of gatherings than to stretch too thin and end up frazzled at all of them.
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2.3. Self-care leading to a social outing
Find a practice that helps you feel centered before you go out, so you come into events more grounded and ready. Here are some self-care practices you might consider:
A good night’s sleep the night before
Having a good meal before the event(recommend a balanced one)
Practicing calming activities such as meditation or gentle exercise
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Keep in mind that caring for yourself is not selfish; it is a must for your health and well-being that enables you to be there for others as well.
3.1. Communicating needs and concerns to those we love
The ability to share your anxiety with family and friends is incredibly helpful. Here are some tips:
Pick a quiet time to initiate the discussion
Find the right approach to share your feelings and needs
Request specific support or understanding
For instance, you could say, “I sometimes get overwhelmed at large gatherings. Would it be all right if I go out for five minutes of quiet time if I need to?”
3.2. Sensible way to deal with difficult conversations
Sometimes holiday gatherings can become sensitive, or even conflictual. To navigate these situations:
So take a deep breath before you respond
Offer to listen and hear the other person out
If necessary, redirect conversation to more neutral topics
And remember that it’s perfectly OK to walk away if things get too heated
3.3. Conflict escalation and using “I” statements
Another effective way to avoid projecting: “I” statements are a great way to express your feelings without accusing the other person. For example:
Instead: “You pressure me to stay late at parties every time.”
Try: “I get anxious when I linger too long at social events.”
This method allows others to grasp your viewpoint without being put on the defensive.
4.1. Mindfulness and grounding techniques
Mindfulness is also a great tool to manage immediate anxiety. Try these techniques:
Concentrate on your breathing, counting every inhale and exhale
Notice 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste
Focus on the sensations in your body, such as your feet on the floor
Such practices can ground you in the present moment and lower stress levels.
4.2. Making time to sit alone in silence
You can always find time to breathe amidst a crowd. You might:
Go out for a little fresh air
Extend a helping hand in the kitchen to change up the scenery
Go for a brief stroll around the block
I stepped away from a loud family dinner once to go sit in my backyard for a few minutes. This brief break allowed me to refuel and come back to the get-together feeling reinvigorated.
4.3. Using the systems of support that are built into the assembly
Find people at your gathering you can lean on if you’re feeling stressed. This could be:
An empathetic family member or friend
A partner who understands your coping strategies
A creature that you can interact with for learning or comfort
Feel free to lean on these support systems when you need.
5.1. How to use breathing exercises to relieve anxiety immediately
Calming your nerves can be as simple as controlled breathing. Try this simple technique:
(breathe in) with your nose for a count of 4
Breathe in and hold your breath for 4 counts
Slowly exhale through your mouth for a count of 4
Repeat for several cycles
You can do this exercise quietly, even while someone is talking to you.
5.2. These include progressive muscle relaxation techniques
Progressive muscle relaxation entails becoming tense, and then relaxing different muscle groups in your body. Here’s a quick version:
Tighten them for 5 seconds, then release.
Work your way up to your calves, then thighs, and so on
End with your facial muscles
This practice can gently release tension held in the body as a result of anxiety.
5.3. Tips : Healthy eating and drinking habits during events
Our anxiety can be amplified or soothed by what we eat and drink. Consider:
Reducing the consumption of caffeine and alcohol
Staying hydrated with water
Protein-based foods to stabilize blood sugar
Steering clear of too much extra sugar (which can cause energy crashes)
And, if you find offered food or drink could add to your anxiety, it’s perfectly acceptable to refuse.
6.1. Spotting locations for short getaways
Scout out some potential quiet spots where you can duck away for a breather if need be before the gathering. This might be:
A less-used room in the house
One of those quiet spots in the garden
Your car, a place you can spend a few minutes alone
Keeping these “escape routes” in mind can help instill confidence.
6.2. Partaking in soothing festivities at get-togethers
This means bringing items and/or planning actions that you can do to maintain your sense of calm during the event. Some ideas:
A book you can read in between the banging of pots and pans.
Something to occupy your hands — fidget toy, stress ball, whatever
Offering to assist with simple chores such as setting the table or washing dishes
These things can give you meaning and distract from the worry thoughts.
6.3. Creating a buddy system for each other
If it is possible, pair up with a trusted friend or family member who understands your anxiety. You can:
During the gathering, I encourage you to check in with one another throughout
If you require support or wish to leave the conversation, use a signal reminiscent of a sports game.
Discuss it together after the event
Having a friend certainly makes social situations easier to navigate.
7.1. Unwinding after socializing
Give yourself time to decompress after a gathering. This might involve:
Taking a warm bath or shower
Indulging in a beloved pastime or watching a feel-good movie
Writing about your experiences and feelings
Give yourself permission to grieve the event at whatever pace you need.
7.2. Future retrospection on triggers and performance
After the gathering, think about it and note down was good and what was difficult. Ask yourself:
What were the situations that caused my anxiety?
What did the one who rated the worst learn?
What might I do differently next time?
The reflection will help you hone your approach for the next event.
7.3. The little wins and the celebration of others
You should reward yourself regardless of how trivial it feels. Maybe you:
Prolonged your stay at the gathering beyond what you ever thought was possible
Used a new coping technique successfully
Talked to someone about your anxiety
Acknowledge these successes to help you to feel more confident about future social interactions.
Summary
Managing worry in the holiday season, like managing anything, is a journey, not a destination. If you think through your triggers, prepare well, communicate your preferences, and use coping strategies you can get through holiday events with more ease and enjoyment. Take your time, and be gentle with yourself as you go.
FAQs
What do I do if I need to leave a gathering early because my anxiety is too high?
If you’ve got to leave early, none of them are going to mind. Have an excuse ready to go, and remind yourself that your mental health should be a priority.
How do I explain the panic to family members who can’t relate?
Open with educational resources regarding anxiety. Give it some time, and work on explaining how […] anxiety manifests in your case.
What if nothing I do is working?
Strategist is also normal for the strategy to work best or worse in different periods of time. Continue trying different things, and please take into account seeking help from a therapist.
How can I help a loved one with anxiety at the holidays?
Check in with them about what they need, honor their limitations, and if you are going to any events, offer to be their support person.
Is it bad that I feel anxious even when I’m with friends I love?
It’s normal to feel anxious even during positive interactions. It doesn’t mean you don’t love being with your loved ones.